“Denial is an unconscious defense mechanism used by those faced with a painful reality. It is an automatic reaction in an attempt to reduce anxiety by denying thoughts, feelings, or facts that are consciously intolerable. It is common for those who are diagnosed with a life-long illness to go through periods of denial.”

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Someone recently related to me that they had received a diagnosis but weren’t sure they accepted it. I have seen this scenario played out in the bipolar community many times: “But I am not psychotic/manic/suicidal” etc. The “problem” with diagnosis, with any kind of labeling or categorization of a person’s personality or identity or deeply ingrained mental characteristics, is that it is an incomplete way to communicate information.

» Continue reading “Part 1: Diagnosis, Misdiagnosis, and Manifestations”

I have been thinking about mental wellness over the past few days, in response to the idea that a patient might not accept a diagnosis and the role diagnosis plays in mental wellness. I’ve also been thinking about the concept of “reframing” that my therapist has me working on, and the concept of mental illness. I wanted to try to reframe the idea of mental illness to approach it from the perspective of mental wellness instead.

» Continue reading “Four Part Series: Diagnosis, Denial, Treatment, and Personal Accountability”

Two Families Grapple with Sons’ Gender Preferences : NPR.

I have a friend grappling with the fact that her young child identifies as transgender. She will have many decisions to make in the comings days, months, years, not the least of which is how to treat her child right now, this moment. Does she respect the preferences her child is expressing, or does she try to redirect her child to more “appropriate” forms of expression that validate the child’s physical gender?

» Continue reading “Link of the Day: Gender Identity”

“Finagle’s Law of Dynamic Negatives (also known as Finagle’s corollary to Murphy’s Law) is usually rendered:

Anything that can go wrong, will—at the worst possible moment

One variant (known as O’Toole’s Corollary of Finagle’s Law) favored among hackers is a takeoff on the second law of thermodynamics (also known as entropy):

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The Cost of Face Time » The Glass Hammer.

A good article on the benefits to companies of teleworking. I am a telecommuter and I can attest to both the challenges and the rewards to both myself and my company of working from home.

Yesterday I came across this story on NPR:

A Social Experiment: Communes In Cul-De-Sacs : NPR.

The story is about “cul de sac” communes, planned neighborhoods where people share resources. Different from the Utopian societies of yore, where the main requirement was isolation from the rest of civilization, this cul de sac commune idea integrates modern culture with communal living.

» Continue reading “Commune vs. Community”

Iowa High Court Strikes Down Gay Marriage Ban : NPR.

I will never understand the fear and loathing surrounding the issue of gay marriage. If you don’t want one, don’t get one. Why shouldn’t love in all forms be celebrated? Aren’t the values embodied by marriage exactly the values we want to espouse? Separate is not equal.  I hope I get to see true marriage equality in my lifetime. God loves us all exactly as we are.

Raw food for pets? / Despite warnings by veterinarians, growing numbers of dog and cat owners are serving uncooked, homemade fare.

While there are real warnings to be heeded when feeding your pets a raw diet, including making sure that you follow appropriate protocols for food safety and avoiding poisonous foods, for the most part, feeding your pets a raw diet of biologically appropriate food can do wonders for their health. For some good information on raw feeding, visit:

» Continue reading “Link of the Day—Raw Feeding Pets”

“Happiness is about making right choices. Depression comes from making the wrong choices. We only need to change our consciousness.”

via Get rid of depressive tendencies | Tickled By Life.

I came across this link as part of a professional group to which I  belong online. Someone posted it as a “great article” but imagine my horror when I actually read the article.

» Continue reading “Dangerous Advice Regarding Depression”